Time for spicin’ it up
Some people find it daunting to find ways to reignite the flame. However, many small, yet impactful, things afford you ways to spice up your relationship. Get that notepad out and take some sexy notes—here we go.
#1 Remove the distractions. Yeah, I know, you wanted to watch the new episode of Game of Thrones, but you have more important things to do right now… remember… the flame. If you have a television in your bedroom or a cell phone attached to your right hand, it’s probably a pretty good reason why you’re falling asleep before having sex.
Sure, technology is great, but it’s also highly distracting and does more harm than good to your sex life, especially when you’re trying to spice up your relationship. Take the TV out of your room and put your phone on silent. Gasp. I know, it’s a big step. But trust me, once you’ve removed these pesky, cockblocking devices, your partner will probably take the extra attention from you as shocking. Once they recover, you two will be able to focus more on each other.
#2 Bring out the lingerie. Some women aren’t fans of lingerie. I mean, besides a guy, who is actually a fan of lingerie? It’s too silky, you’re sliding everywhere and all you want to do is wear your worn out t-shirt that you bought in Hawaii ten years ago. I get it.
However, if your t-shirt is touching you more often than your partner, surprising them with a little sexy bra and pantie piece really ignites the flame. Think of it like this, do you actually think that lingerie will be staying on you for longer than a minute? Yeah, that’s what I thought.
#3 Get into character. You don’t have to be a Hollywood actor to play a character. Naughty maid? Sexy nurse? Throw on a wig and pretend to be someone completely different. It’s fun. Be whoever you want. Sure, if your partner isn’t expecting it, they’ll be a little surprised at first, but once they see you all dressed up in your sexy costume, they’ll be into it too.
#4 Send a naughty text or photo. If you know they’re in a boring business meeting, sending a sexy text saying, “I’m touching myself and thinking about you” or “I want you inside me” will certainly make their meeting more interesting. You don’t have to send them a fully nude picture to turn them on. Your lips, legs, stomach—any little piece of you that you know gets them excited. By the time they come home, they’ll be eating you for dinner.
#5 Express your desires. A huge issue between partners is that they don’t know what the other person wants. If you feel the sex is getting dull, don’t be afraid to voice your opinion. They’re probably feeling the same. Ask them what they want, what they desire and then go from there. Test out what you both want and see what works and what doesn’t work for you. Communication is key, people!
#6 Surprise your partner. If they’re coming home from work, greet them at the door completely naked. Wake your partner up one morning with oral sex. You don’t even have to surprise them with sexual acts. Set up something spontaneous—like a weekend trip. This shows your partner how you care about them, bringing a spark back between you two.
#7 Stroke the ego. There isn’t anything wrong with complimenting your partner. Tell them they’re hot. Tell them they make you wet. Make them feel like they’re the best thing that has happened to you because most likely it’s true. Everybody wants to feel needed and loved. If you want to spice up your relationship, don’t be shy about sharing compliments with your partner.
#8 Have sex outside of the bedroom. Have sex everywhere. In the car, in the bathroom, at the movie theaters, at a hotel. Do it everywhere! Public sex is risky, naughty, and exhilarating. The bedroom is all fine and dandy, but you can have sex there whenever you want—it’s your safe place. Now, get out there and do something out of the box. Just don’t get caught… or do.
#9 Add in a new sex position. After having sex with the same person for a while, you start to develop a pattern. I still remember the sexual positions of my ex-boyfriend in order: missionary, cowgirl, doggy, missionary. That exact order. We broke up four years ago. That’s scary, eh?
So, if you’re terrified of that happening, introduce a new sexual position every month. It could succeed or fail, but that’s not the point. Trying new things with your partner will spice up your relationship.
#10 Squeeze in a quickie. Who doesn’t love a good quickie? Exactly. Maybe your partner will be in their office at lunch. Surprise them and have a quickie on their desk. While you’re getting ready for work in the morning, have a quickie before you head out the door. Don’t underestimate this—a good quickie goes a long way.
#11 Leave your partner a love note. Everyone loves a handwritten note. It can be a dirty, sweet, or cute note, the point is, you wrote it thinking of them. Leave them a note in the morning, saying that you can’t wait to see them tonight or that they better be naked when you come home. These notes increase the bond between you and your partner bringing better sex.
#12 Plan a date night. Yes, you’re in a relationship but that doesn’t mean you can’t have date nights. Go see a movie, have dinner, go to a concert. You need to do things with your partner that are fun and relaxing. This is what a relationship is about, building memories. My ex-boyfriend and I never went anywhere—that’s why he’s my ex.
So stop yawning, yeah, that’s right. Stop it. Now is the time to put a little elbow grease into it and spice up your relationship. If you follow at least one or two of these suggestions, you’ll notice a huge difference in your sex life—and the bond with your partnerSource: Lovepanky]]>