An oral sex refresher course

Recent studies have shown that only 33% of women have an orgasm through intercourse alone, which means we need your help.

What do women really want? Cunnilingus; also known a “going downstairs for breakfast” or “rowing the girl in the pink canoe.”

As a single, hetero woman, I have been with men who ranged from the one who had no idea what he is doing downtown to another who was so skilled that I put a framed photo of his tongue on my desk.

So what’s the secret? With just a few simple techniques, you can easily become a cunning linguist.

The warm up

Before you even start, giving a woman an orgasm comes down to one thing; the clitoris.

It just wants to be rubbed. Orgasms are not going to magically happen through thrusting penetration alone. Women just need a longer warm-up. It seems that while women are trying to have an orgasm, men are trying not to.

Most women need the “happy button” to be rubbed, touched, and kissed. Start by kissing her and telling her how hot she is.

Then head for the breasts. For some women, the nipples are directly wired to the clitoris.

Once you’ve gone south, locate the clitoris so you can get to work. (It’s the tiny pink pencil eraser-like thing on top of her lady business that doesn’t kiss back, but really likes you.)

Since every woman is different, it helps to have an inventory or cunnilingus techniques to try. Start by gently rubbing her; this can be done over her knickers or stockings, or using a bit of lube which feels amazing.

The strokes

Every woman likes a slightly different touch to induce orgasms. There are a few basic strokes, like in tennis.

You can start with your fingers then move to using your tongue. Most women like to be rubbed or licked in an “up and down” motion.

Start licking her with a light touch with her lips together (like a sandwich) then move to more of a medium pressure.

Many women like an “indirect” touch, accomplished by rubbing the skin above the “hood” of the “happy button”, which sits right on top of the clitoris, so you don’t have to Google Map it.

A popular move women like is the “circular” motion that circles around the clitoris with your tongue.

Start with a feathery, light touch. If you want to build up the momentum, switch the motions between a more and a less intense touch.

There is also the “side-to-side” lick where you use your tongue horizontally, which works, as well as inserting a finger or two once you see that she is getting aroused and her breathing seems heavier.

Marcus London, a porn star turned director, claims his “Spiderman” technique “gives a woman an orgasm by stimulating the clitoris along with inserting two fingers” into the spider cave.

His “circle” technique “goes ‘round and ‘round, adding a little bit of speed and force.”

And his “omega” technique involves two fingers in the anus with a “come-hither” movement that hits the woman’s G-spot, which is located on the upper, inside wall of the woman’s vagina.

He says that although this move is easy to do, you need to practice, since it’s hard enough locating the clitoris.

The big O

So how do you know how long to do it, whether she is ready to have an orgasm or whether you should stop or keep going?

Keep your tongues moving to build up the sexual tension and momentum. Establish a rhythm and tell her gently to take a few deep breaths.

It’s a Tantric Sex technique that works wonders at any point by relaxing her and facilitating her orgasm.

Use your tongue at this point in one, long up and down motion. Repeat.

Signs of escalating excitement include deeper breathing, moaning, grunting, or threatening to commit suicide if you stop.

Keep going until her body tenses up and she gets “orgasm face.”

Amazing oral sex positions

Some positions are better than others, and pretty much have to do with access to the area you’re working with.

One fun way to the “pleasure palace” is for her to get on all fours so you can lick from behind.

And the view is not bad. Or you can be lazy and just lie below her on the bed while she is spread eagle with her knees bent.

A new position you may want to try is her standing while you are on your knees. (Sit on a pillow or cushion so you can walk afterwards).

I road tested this one and can say it was erotic having my lady right above his face while he was going down on me, which was actually “going up.”

Source: British GQ